From Emotion

Graceful Failure Modes

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Within this post, we’ll define an “identity failure” as incongruence between your mental image of reality and your actual experiences. When such an identity failure becomes particularly prominent or visceral, you become aware of this cognitive dissonance and typically suffer emotional harm. A simple example would be arriving home to find your supposedly faithful spouse of two decades …

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The Self-Esteem Landscape

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Self-esteem can be envisioned as a landscape of possible values. Each potential altitude within this landscape represents a different level of confidence; a peak represents good emotions, while a valley represents negative emotions. Horizontal movement across the landscape is the result of changing knowledge, beliefs, thoughts, and actions. This landscape is constructed from each individual’s worldview …

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How to Always be Happy (5 Principles of Detachment)

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Confidence can be built by learning how to always be happy. In Part 4 of this series, I told you how the previous three parts (regarding planning, self-improvement, and self-acceptance) support the creation of a strong identity. These concepts are vital for developing self-esteem, but also somewhat insular and egocentric; the focus was constantly on how I could improve myself, …

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How to Create an Identity (10 Step Character Construction)

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Confidence can be built by creating a strong identity. In Part 3 of this series, I discussed the last of three pillars of confidence; the creation and iteration of plans, self-improvement, and self-acceptance. Together, these aspects also support the creation of a strong identity. Forming a robust conception and expression of your individuality is a prerequisite for feelings of congruence …

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