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Break Your Frameworks

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This article will give a brief overview of “analysis paralysis”, its solution, and a more appropriate method for analysis of self-improvement frameworks. In the context of self-improvement, analysis paralysis refers to a state of overthinking which prevents one from actually acting to improve their life, and serves as a barrier to experiencing positive emotions and …

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Graceful Failure Modes

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Within this post, we’ll define an “identity failure” as incongruence between your mental image of reality and your actual experiences. When such an identity failure becomes particularly prominent or visceral, you become aware of this cognitive dissonance and typically suffer emotional harm. A simple example would be arriving home to find your supposedly faithful spouse of two decades …

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Cialdini’s Six Principles

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Robert Cialdini’s six principles of influence affect your confidence. His book, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, details how these principles encourage people to take certain actions or have particular thoughts. The book’s popularity owes to the subtlety of the principles; a skillful marketer or politician can apply the principles almost invisibly, or in such a way that it …

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Fashion is Bunk

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Your clothing and accessories barely impact your social standing. Savvy marketers create the illusion that certain clothes (not-so-coincidentally the more expensive ones) will drastically improve your reputation and attractiveness. Buying into this gimmick will throw you into a rat race, constantly trying to keep up with new trends and feeling deep insecurity when your fail …

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Honesty is Easier

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Lying to protect your confidence will eventually kick you in the ass. You will probably be caught out eventually; someone will detect an inconsistency, or you’ll forget you ever told a lie. This will embarrass you and lose you friends. Whenever you have to maintain the lie, you will be reminded that you sacrificed your …

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Everybody is Staring at Me

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If you regularly feel everybody is noticing your flaws, you are likely paranoid and incorrect. Of course, sometimes people really are staring at you for a negative reason. If you’re stumbling around drunk, or have shit your pants, or are yelling expletives at the police, crowds will quickly focus their attention on you. If, however, you’re not …

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